My significant other and I are in the process of purchasing a home. I am also considering a thesis topic related to gender and housing. All of this is making me think a lot more about the conscious and unconscious choices we make in our lives about “home”.
The idea of the conventional “American Dream” persists, even in the face of this recession that has cities shrinking, families facing foreclosures and lots of folks chronically unemployed or underemployed. Maybe some are adjusting and defining a new “dream”, but it seems that many, including governing bodies, would just like to get us back to the way we were.
Where do you stand in all of this?
I don’t want to go back to the way I was. I am reevaluating things on a number of levels. For example, when I finish with my program, I will look for a job, sure. However, I do not expect to find or, even, necessarily desire something like a salaried, 8-5 gig. Aside from the fact that those are increasingly hard to come by, I also am prioritizing things much differently in my life. While I once inextricably tied my occupation with my identity, I now try to look at what really matters to me during this brief bit of time I have on this planet. I really want to, as the saying goes, “follow my joy”. I will never be financially wealthy doing that, but I am realizing more and more that money is not the safeguard I once believed it to be. The more I follow the things I love and believe in, the more people I connect with and the more I enjoy my days (thesis-writing aside!). Even as I pursue one American convention, home ownership, I am looking for ways to make it less of a weight to tie us down and more of a tool to expand our opportunities and help others along the way. For example, if we go through with the purchase of the home we have our sights on, we plan to grow food in our yard and share the space with others who want to do the same. Maybe we would just feed ourselves, but maybe it would evolve into something that could feed even more local families. The form it takes is unimportant to me, so long as what we are doing brings joy to our own lives and others.
So what dream are you following?
‘Burque Bioneers plug…
Join us at the National Hispanic Cultural Center (NHCC) from 7-8:30pm this Tuesday, Feb. 28th for films featuring talks by John Liu and Gloria Steinem. Pencil us in for the last Tuesday in March, too–same time, same place. See you Feb. 28th at the NHCC!



